Sunday 29 December 2013

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Christmas Past.



During traditional times of the year I'm reminded of the passages of the family members I have lost and as we prepare for another Christmas without them -- sharing decorations, songs and traditions ; I'm reminded how many people are struggling this holiday season with heavy hearts like mine, that others don't see. That person who just "stole" your parking spot at the mall might have had eyes blurred by tears of homesickness. That person wandering aimlessly in the path of your progress at the store might be drifting in memories of loved ones and lost traditions. That flustered and frustrated mother of three in front of you in line might be crying on the inside for her own mother and trying to figure out how she's going to cook her first holiday dinner by herself.  Or that person sitting next to you at work may have just come from the Vet's office where she had to say her final farewell to a dear life long companion.


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For myself, this Christmas will be a first without my beloved Abby. There is a heaviness in my heart that I wish I could erase. I know Abby would want me to, but there "it" sits. That sad monster of grief. The one who is keeping me from being able to completely enjoy all the festive things about the Season. I am so reminded of Christmas Past. How much I want to go back and grab all those memories and hold onto to them tightly and not let go. But we do not live in the past, we live in the now. The now has no Abby in it for me except in those memories. As cherished as they are, they are also an abrasion rubbing and chafing at my soul. I want, oh how I want. I want what is impossible to have. So this year my thoughts will be a little different, I will be thinking about so many others like myself who are living their first year without the one cherished soul they most wish to be with. We will all make it through our first Holiday without our loved ones, but it will be a struggle. You will see us with a little less sparkle in our eye, and a slightly bent smile.

And the Song Merry Christmas Darling by the Carpenter will hold a special grip on my heart which will probably break a little as I think of Christmas this year without my Abby.



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Greeting cards have all been sent 
The Christmas rush is through 

But I still have one wish to make 

A special one for you 

Merry Christmas, darling 

We're apart, that's true 

But I can dream 

And in my dreams 

I'm Christmasing with you  






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On this Christmas Eve
I wish I were with you
The logs on the fire
Fill me with desire
To see you and to say

That I wish you Merry Christmas
Happy New Year too
I've just one wish
On this Christmas Eve
I wish I were with you


Merry Christmas, darling
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Please extend peace this season. Warmth. Kindness. Understanding. Patience with your fellow humans.

Rather than our rush, our busyness, our frustration and impatience, may we all find the time to share our joy this holiday with others.  And please remember those of us going through our first holiday without the one we cherish so much. We want to smile and be happy, but this year, it won't be that easy to do. If you look closely you will find tears of loss as we try to find a new sense of peace without the one we want to be with the most. 


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From the author Molly The Wally.

27 comments:

  1. That is a beautiful post. I think we all get so caught up in our own lives, we forget that the strangers around us may have so much more going on. We need to be more patient and empathetic. Lee and Phod

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  2. We all love them and feel the pain of a loved little Abby who left way too soon.

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  3. Oh, how I know what you mean. My next post will be on this very subject, and you make some very important points here. The behavior we often run into or even engage in ourselves has a root problem to it...such as loss, frustration, or the need to simply feel loved.

    Like any other time during the year, Christmas is a time to try to understand what doesn't SPARKLE, but what is dull and sad, hopeless and dark. It's then that we really see the light of the holidays.

    HEY MOLLY!

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  4. Angel Abby was one of our first kitty friends....dainty Abby had the heart of a lion...run free sweet girl
    Hugs
    Madi and molly thank you for this post

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  5. We were there with them through the journey of losing Abby and love visiting them - thanks for featuring our friends!

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  6. What a BEAUTIFUL Post... So many WISE WORDS that we need to adhere to !!!

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  7. This time of year is the happiest time of year but it can also be bitter sweet as it can be the saddest time of year too,xx Rachel

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  8. Christmas brings back lots of memories for mom also, about her lost pets especially. I was very lucky to get to lay on the quilted tree skirt that her kitties loved and breaks her heart the most. I hope you have wonderful memories too and find joy in them. Love Dolly

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  9. Sometimes we forget about others...

    XXXOOO Daisy, Bella & Roxy

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  10. It is so important to remember that we don't know what others are going through at any given time, we have to be respectful because that person may be experiencing something tragic or sad, you just don't know.

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  11. Molly I wish I could reach through the computer and hug you my friend. So many of us struggle with not the traditional red and green jolly Christmas but have a blue sad Christmas.
    Blessings my friend
    Sweet William The Scot

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  12. This is such a beautiful post! {{{HUGS}}} to you, my furiend! It's so easy to get lost in our own lives, so this was a nice reminder that others can be suffering and we may not even see it. I wish you much happiness and peace in the new year.

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  13. This is a very poignant post! Christmas is often a time of sadness and reflection about those we have lost. My father died at Christmas 2004 and I have had very mixed feelings about the season ever since! But as the years go by I smile a bit more! Caro xox

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  14. Beautiful post. Hugs to all! Much love, The Scottie Mom.

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  15. Hey Molls, you never know what a new year will bring. Lots and lots of love xxx

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  16. Such a beautiful post. We have been along for the long journey of Abby's loss, and it's wonderful to see her sharing her wisdom here. Holidays can bring on mixed feelings in some of us, and it's good to be reminded to be sensitive of it.

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  17. Tears such a beautiful post.

    Aroo to you,
    Sully

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  18. Molly....
    First Christmasas sans our beloved babies are so very emotionally painful.... This I know from experience.... Hugs.... ;op
    --Raelyn and Rose

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  19. Thank you for speaking from your heart. We understand what you are saying,,, and your words are deep and heart felt.
    love
    tweedles

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  20. What a beautiful post. The holidays are a little sad without our little friends who have crossed the bridge.

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  21. We are thinking of our Angel Laura and Angel Hana now!

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  22. *´¨)
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    (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Have a Blessed and Prosperous New Year!

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  23. Many of us understand this all too well but it's a good reminder to appreciate all who come in and out of our lives.

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  24. We understand. Its our first without Freddy.

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  25. What a beautiful, beautiful post, Molly. It was a tough Christmas for us. We miss all those who have passed, but this year especially - our first Christmas without Dave, and Dad's brother just passed away unexpectedly. Just really tough.
    Sending you and your family lots of love!
    Play bows,
    Zim

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  26. I wish everyone joy for the holidays. :)

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  27. What a lovely post, the first holiday (for me) is always the hardest. I hope you found peace this season and memories to make you smile.

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